Welcome to Whatevershewants...a site of inspiration for women, and education for men!

Some may wonder what a 54 yr old single again Aussie male may know about the subject of what women want. Allow me to offer a brief history to explain. For the first 36 years of my life, I learned very little about what women want. As the youngest of 6 sons in my family, I learned heaps about what men want in life, but little about relationships with the fairer sex. What I did learn from my parents' example was that the husband goes to work to provide for the family, and mum stays home, fully involved in domestic duties. A full-time job with 6 boys!

At age 19, I married my pregnant bride, and we embarked on this exciting adventure called marriage! Knowing little more than I had gleaned from my parents example, we struggled along for 17 years, before finally calling it quits. We took the easy way out, and our 3 boys paid the price..... Not surprising we didn't last the distance, as my parents did. The whole relationship was obviously based on lust, not love, but at age 19 did I know the difference? It felt like love! For further discussion on love vs lust, see my blog.

About 6 months after our separation, I was introduced to some wonderful people who were in touch with the Truth, and I became a born-again Christian. Finally I began learning some true life skills. I soon realised that, although born a male, being the man I am called to be takes some work! Love, life and relationship skills are what the true Christian walk is all about. Going to church every week means nothing, unless you are being taught the Truth.

My purpose with this site is to provide information that will challenge men to take up their true role as leaders of the family. There are far too many women out there, doing a man's job in relation to raising kids, running a household etc. Many men have let the side down, by abdicating their responsibility as husbands and fathers. If a man's not doing those jobs, then his lady has to!

Perhaps the most important thing I have learned is that there are two basic needs in human relationships. For women, this need is security. Contrary to what many women may say, financial security is not the issue here. You don't have to look far to see evidence of the rich and famous, and their disastrous relationships. Spending more money in a day than I earn in a year is not the way to secure your relationship! Women need to be secure in the knowledge that they can trust their man, in any situation. She needs to be confident that he won't play up while away on that business trip. That he will follow through on what he says he is going to do. That he will do his best to provide for her and the family. Without trust, there is little foundation for a long term relationship. Providing and maintaining that sense of trust is an ongoing process, and men need to work on it. Don't just tell her you love her, but do something to prove it!

Men who provide that sense of security will have their basic need met, that being acceptance. Even the least vain of us desire to be accepted by a lady, and that acceptance will be fully manifest in the physical act of lovemaking, in due course. You may think that you're God's gift to women, but read from the same book I do and you'll find that woman is God's gift to man! Men could do worse than acknowledge the giver of that precious gift, and treat the gift with the love, honour and respect she deserves.

Ready for some therapy? Read the articles listed to the right. You will learn some interesting aspects about the opposite sex. More articles to come, so stay tuned! Better still, join my list to get automatic updates of new articles. The signup form is on the right.

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